Most of us have heard it all before… “I’m just not ready for a committment.”, “I’ve been hurt before.”, “Why can’t we just take things slow?”, etc. It’s never easy when that special someone doesn’t want to take that next step with you. That step could be anything from marriage to introducing you to the family, or even proclaiming an official relationship. But how can you tell when you’re just wasting your time? Should you wait, or is it time to move on?
It’s not an easy question and you may not even want to know the answer. When I had this issue I first consulted my closest friends(as most women would). The problem with doing this is that friends often care about you so much to the point that they’re overly defensive and protective of you. If you’re going to look for relationship advice from a friend, make sure its someone who can be semi-objective. Otherwise you may get my results: a never ending tirade that the guy is a jerk and you need to drop him ASAP. I made up my mind to be hard-headed, ignore my friends, and do what felt right to me. While watching Sex and The City 2 (I love Sex and the City!), the main character, Carrie Bradshaw, said something very interesting that somewhat resonated with me. She asked herself, can people on the outside truly understand what goes on between two people in an intimate relationship? In my opinion, although friends may be able to help, only you have a complete understanding of the relationship that you are in.
In the end you may have to just listen to yourself and determine what you want. If the two of you are already on the rocks then it may not be worth it to wait. You also don’t want to be the doormat that waits and begs for six years with no result. If you know that they care deeply about you and are sincere (in every aspect of their life), they might just be worth the wait….but make it clear that you can’t wait around forever.
- FabTV: Carrie Bradshaw’s Sex and the City Fashion Flashback (fabsugar.com)
- 8 Dating Truths That Women Refuse To Accept (madamenoire.com)
- Labels and Relationships; A Query (socyberty.com)